Victimology

For so long it’s been staring me in the face-and I was oblivious to its presence. Insidious and disabling. This concept that we are all somehow-VICTIMS. Of life. Of society. Of our minds .Of ourselves. What of responsibility and choice? Of making our own way in the world? Self reliant and using our ingenuity to survive instead of blaming and whining and only seeking proof of the worst we’ve become. Sure things are fucked up in the world-Life isn’t fair or easy-but who said it was going to be? What use would that be? What would we learn? How would we grow? How would we differentiate between subtle emotions, or come to appreciate the beauty in pain? The ecstasy of betrayal. Of Living with no questions or restraint. No regrets. Getting hurt-but not blaming. Only loving the chance to experience all that life has to offer. The good, the bad, the painful and the rarely understood. To ask questions that no one wastes time thinking of. To see things in your own way. To make yourself and your life. Sure the victim stance allows us to dissolve any responsibility and affords us options like-being dependant on others for our survival or self destructive behavior with no artistic merit-Returning to an infantile state while our brains atrophy because we don’t use them-and then in 60 years if we are lucky we can develop dementia and be cast away to some old folks home to be forgotten and decay. All the while blaming our demise on everyone else. Never taking responsibility for or really owning our life and our choices. Throwing our hands up and saying “It’s not my fault, I have no control.”I'd rather live each day knowing that what I do and what happens to me -I alone am responsible for. How I react and feel and interact and deal-are all the stuff of life. Living. Making choices. Being free. We live in a society that encourages dependencies and the victim mentality. But that’s no reason to so easily give up our responsibility. It’s not a burden -but a gift. Without a sense of being responsible for what happens in our life how can we ever truly be free? To choose, to create, to live and let live. When you give in to the victim mentality you’re not only giving up on yourself, but on what you can offer the world. Nothing in life is perfect and overcoming obstacles is a process of growth which people should never be encouraged to blame others for. So your parents weren’t perfect, or you were poor, make do with what you have. Stop blaming life and use your mind to change your world.